"When my husband passed away, my children were still young. I didn't want to go on welfare so I suffered through hardships, but I raised them properly. The happiest time in my life was when they graduated from high school. People in our community would say that I should remarry because I was still very young. I would say to them, ‘I do not want to marry again because I married once in my life and that was the man for me. I will not marry because the person might not look after my children properly.’ After my husband died, my oldest son worked for a little while in the mill and the other two boys worked in the bowling alley as pin-setters. I was happy and sad too when I went to my sons' graduations because my husband wasn't there to see it. I think about my husband sometimes. I've never forgotten the way he used to call me 'Sugar.'"
This interview originally appeared in the August/September 1996 edition of **Mehfil Magazine.**
Nand Kaur Ralla came to Vancouver Island in 1933 as a 20-year-old bride. She was widowed in 1950 and raised three sons and a daughter by herself.